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The subject of relaxation is a big topic and a very important part of the Happy Venn Diagram. What’s more, true relaxation not only makes you feel good, increases self esteem, but it also puts your manifestation powers on after burners.

This may sound like a paradox, almost a contradiction in terms. Have you not been told that you need to be pro-active in order to achieve? Action is the thing that gets you what you desire. Sure, I cannot and will not argue this essential part of making dreams reality.

However, if you know the Bhagavad Gita, you will know that action and non-action are valued equally by Krishna in his conversation with Arjuna.

Knowing when to take action and when to stay away is one of life’s secrets. It requires a balance of mind, body and environment to facilitate optimum timing free from interference.

Most of us have a somewhat flawed idea about relaxation. Relaxation is not about sleeping excessively, going on holiday, or seeking out so called relaxing entertainment, like sitting in front of the box and be brainwashed, or some other form of mental or physical intoxication. These activities only distract you from a problem you may have and delude you into thinking that you are relaxing. Alcohol and television slow down your mind, which means you enter a less frenzied state for a while, however, true relaxation is very different.

With practice you can enter a state of true relaxation at will. Actually, in seconds. However, if you are experiencing feelings of guilt, anger and fear, as many of us do, you will find it hard to truly relax. You will need to do a little mental house cleaning first. Because, true relaxation requires a mind free from guilt and fear. Both guilt and fear are the biggest enemies of progress and success. They stop you from being in touch with yourself and your life. This artifical feeling of separation is painful and induces more stress, quite the opposite from what you need to achieve your goals.

If you are out of touch with yourself, how can you possibly connect to others? Let alone, create the habits and thoughts of a successful person.

Relaxation is about entering a mild alpha state and maintaining it. Breathing exercises are a great way to practice cognitive relaxation, particularly, if you have not practiced any cognitive relaxation techniques before.

Relaxation is also about becoming aware of your body and your mind and consciously doing those things that bring about balance. When you learn to become truly relaxed, you will conserve energy.

You will tire less easily and increase your productivity in due course. With energy techniques, like EFT and Micro EFT you can release tension very quickly. Use Micro EFT as a quick relaxation technique several times throughout the day to induce moments of relaxation. Practice meditation. The guided problem solving meditations are a great way to experience relaxation and solve problems at the same time.

In closing, let me just say this. Learn to relax, it will increase your conscious awareness. You need to expand conscious awareness of yourself and your world in order to grow and manifest your goals easier and faster. Relaxation is expansive, in the true meaning of the word. Tension contracts. This is true for your body, as well as your brain.

Resources: Mercedes Oestermann van Essen is a human development coach, energy therapist and author. She has created the Happy Venn Diagram for environment, body and mind, a unique approach for happiness and success. Get your free report, 5 Little Known Keys To Happiness

Every time I walk through the kitchen I find a new wrapper. Fruit stickers, cellophane and cans are the decor found on my counters. Feeding three growing kids has me shopping all the time. They eat three full meals per day, and snack the entire time in between meals. My well nourished children are physically fit, eating healthy and rarely get ill. So I should be the happiest mother on earth. Wrong! My grocery bills have been creeping up since the third piggy was born in 2005. Plus, the time I spent wandering through the grocery store made me resent having to shop.

It was eighteen months ago when I first noticed that I was shopping every week instead of my usual every two week rotation. Milk only lasted a week, and I started adding one more gallon each week. Something had to change. I was constantly driving 12 miles to my grocery store, then thirty minutes to shop, unload and sort. Too much time was spent on feeding my little piggies. I was starting to really dislike the grocery store.

There had to be a better way. That’s when I started reading about stockpiling and saving. Stockpiling is a term used by active coupon shoppers for the style they use when buying. These moms don’t buy items by ones or twos like most shoppers. Instead, they think differently. They buy the amount their family will consume in a six month interval.

Figuring out what my family consumed each month in milk was easy. But Milk, isn’t an item that will stockpile. I had to rethink how many of each thing I was buying per week. Then multiply that amount by 26 weeks. I hadn’t realized just how much we were consuming when I was buying one unit at a time. When I pulled my receipts from a three week period I was shocked. We were indeed buying the same favorites over and over.

In order to save time shopping, my plan was to make a list of all the items that we wanted in the next six months. Buying 14 boxes of cereal caught the eye of several other shoppers. But I had a plan, and wanted to end the empty shelf dilemma. Then I started gathering coupons for as many of those items as I could. I took the advice of a coupon expert to match my want list, and purchase only when the store had a sale list that matched. Milk, aside of course since I have to pick that up weekly. By having 14 coupons, I saved over 50% on my cereal for a 3 week time period.

In less than a month, I had plenty of foods in my home. My little pigs did not seem to be constantly asking when I was headed to the store again. It took a full 3 months to get to a point where I felt completely ahead of the food curve. By purchasing a few more items each week when they were on sale, I was able to see my stockpile grow without running out of the regular use items. Now I have a full six month supply of stockpiled foods both frozen and dry goods.

The Best part of this experience was that at the end of each month I noticed that I was actually spending less money per week. Each week I saw small decreases in out of pocket spending due to the use of coupons. Now I use coupons for everything including tooth paste, cereal, even the milk. It took a bit of determination, but now I shop in only 15 minutes per week, and since I buy mostly all the same items each time I shop, organizing is a snap.

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If you have been told, or worse still, firmly hold the belief that making money has to do with talent and outside circumstances, you are betting on the wrong horse. What’s more, your failure in the world of making money is almost certainly guaranteed, particularly in today’s tough environment. The pre-suppositions of talent, luck and the like are old wife’s tales and hold no truth what so ever. In fact, scientific evidence points into a very different direction.

Recent scientific studies show clear evidence that only around 20percent of our so called talents are inherited. Environmental factors, such as geopathic stress and EMR, electro magnetic radiation, may play a much larger role in your ability to make money and further success in other areas of your life too.

Quantum physics explains how particles of an observed object change with the observer. And there are the famous water experiments by Masaru Emoto that show that water molecules change with our emotions.

It is beyond the scope of this article to go into all these findings in detail, suffice it to say though that there is abundant evidence that our thoughts literally make our world. Success in life is not directly dictated by outside circumstances, as many of us believe, but your outside circumstances are attracted to you through your thinking.

In other words: You will always get what you focus on and how you focus dictates the results you are getting in your life. This simple statement is naturally true of your financial situation as well.

Successful people have always known about the number one of manifestation principles and know how to apply their mind to get what they want.

It has never been more important than today to learn and understand these principles and practice them each day to become a master at using them. This is your guarantee that will see you through an extended bear market which is likely to run for several years yet.

So, where do you start? In order to focus on a desired outcome you need to be able to notice how your mind works. The technique of witnessing your thoughts and feelings is also referred to as witnessing. When you learn to become the witness of your thoughts and actions you are beginning to expand your cognitive awareness. Expanding your cognitive awareness is the key to focusing correctly. After all you can only change something if you are aware of it. And, you need to learn when to recognise when you are not focusing correctly.

There are many techniques that can help you to learn disciplined mind focus. Mediation is a great tool, alas many of us do not have the time for extended meditation practice. The next best thing are mental energy techniques which are combined with meridian stimulation. Micro EFT is such a technique and possibly one of the easiest to use and incorporate seamlessly into your daily routine. It only takes seconds to use and, provided it is used regularly, it is incredibly powerful and effective.

If you are familiar with energy techniques, you may have already heard of EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique. Micro EFT is an adaptation of EFT and uses regular micro stimulus to create macro results, similar to homeopathy. Instead of taking drops of some essence several times a day, you use mental stimulus several times during the day to train your mind and release unwanted thought patterns. Neutralising unwanted emotions clears the mind and lets you see how you are doing things that stop you from realising your goals.

I cannot stress enough, in times when the world is changing and the old ways we took for granted have stop working, we must grow and learn new ways of adjusting to these changes in order to survive. True changes always comes from within, it is never out there. So, work on yourself and learn to direct your mind correctly and unleash the many talents you have.

Resources: Mercedes Oestermann van Essen is a human development coach, energy therapist and author. She has created the Happy Venn Diagram for environment, body and mind, a unique approach for happiness and success. Get your free report, 5 Little Known Keys To Happiness

Today, in this fast-paced world, man is always under stress to stay in tune with life. He wants to control everybody and everything around him, little realising that controlling himself is the key to success, peace of mind and happiness.

There comes a time in life, when man realises that the external world is no longer interesting and does not give him peace and happiness. He understands that there is something more to life and starts analysing himself or starts looking within.

This is the beginning to conquering himself. This is the beginning for peace and happiness.

Even for a big bonfire, a small spark is what matters. Even a journey of a thousand miles starts with a small step. Conquering yourself is the first step.

Just as your shadow follows you wherever you go, your thoughts are always with you, wherever you are, be it home, at work or in the Himalayas. Hence, being in control of yourself is of prime importance. It is a mind game.

There are two options available to you; conquering yourself or conquering others.

Consider a situation wherein someone intimidates you. If you are in control of yourself or in other words conquered yourself by overcoming anger, you will react to this intimidation positively. You will not lose your cool but will leave the intimidator cold.

You will take on an assertive role, speak suitably and put him in place. You will be in control of the situation. When you have a cool head, you will take the right decisions.

Conquering yourself is an easier and sensible option giving you the desired results and conquering others an unwarranted one. Think differently. Do not try to conquer others; rather try to conquer yourself for peace and happiness.

This article is not intended to be one full of advice. Nor is it a magic mantra for everything. I can vouch for its effectiveness, as I have learnt in my personal, professional, social and spiritual life leading to peace of mind and happiness.

The motivating factor and purpose of this article is as follows:

Like everyone, I have gone through a series of experiences and learnt about the practical aspects of life. I wanted to record my experiences, which would help readers understand life without having to go through what I did. Thereby cutting down the learning curve substantially.

The importance of this exercise can be seen in the fact that this is aimed at the younger generation. I do not want them to despair in life, but feel that they should fight and carry on in their lives with confidence and courage.

This assumption is based on the fact that all round education is a must for an individual from the younger days itself. This will give him an idea as to what can be expected later on in practical life.

Another factor is that more and more couples are in employment these days. HR managers have a problem on hand, since employees carry thoughts of office to home and vice versa.

Husband and wife will have to mesh smoothly for happiness at home and efficiency at office. This will help HR managers in recruiting and retaining good and useful talent. Experiences in my personal, professional, social and spiritual life have proved that this is possible.

Conquer yourself and not the world, is a positive outcome of the conflict I had with my conscience and not with my colleagues or compatriots. Remember, everything is within you. I am only acting as a catalyst by kindling your thought process by way of this article.

Wishing you Success!

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It hardly needs pointing out that one of our core desires is to be happy. Yet happiness is as elusive as the Scarlet Pimpernel for most of us. We are caught up in the uncertainties of life and the daily worries of survival in an environment that seems to be getting tougher rather than easier.

All the talk about the energetic shift, ascension and the like are of little help when you are facing your own demons in a world that appears basically unfriendly and dangerous. Most of us are at a level of our cognitive development where we need to see proof that the things we are doing are working.

There is now an unprecedented number of alternative therapies about and alternative medicine is booming. For good reason, because more and more of us are waking up to the fact that the old ways of dealing with our emotional health, which also ultimately dictates our physical well being, have ceased to work.

Our growing understanding of universal laws makes it clearer by the day that the draconian methods of old suppress the body’s natural healing powers rather than supporting them.

In case you wonder what this has to do with your ability to “do” happiness, let me tell you this: It has a great deal to do with it. Only when you understand your body and mind and how it functions as part of a much larger part, namely the universe, can you begin to understand what is involved in becoming truly happy.

Happiness basically consists of three things: A healthy working and living environment, a healthy body and a healthy mind. This in itself is not rocket science, however, most people make two fundamental mistakes on their happiness quest. First, they underestimate the importance of their immediate surroundings on their mental and physical well being. (I have written about the dangers of geopathic stress and EMR, electro magnetic radiation extensively and will cover this important subject again in another article.)

Second, they spend too much time figuring out why they are unhappy instead of working out how they “do” unhappiness. This is a common flaw in many therapies and personal development work. The emphasis is on understanding why you have problems. Yet, the answer to this question is so simple, that it would put most psychiatrists and therapists out of business tomorrow. The reason is always to do with unresolved early live trauma, if you have persistent problems, and if you encounter isolated problems they will be linked to an undigested experience later in your life and finally, environmental factors can seriously affect your mental and physical well being.

The point though is this: While it is necessary to neutralize unresolved negative emotions to clear the road to happiness, you do not need to know, nor analyze in great detail why you have these problems. You just need to know how to clear them and there are a number of techniques you can learn easily.

Remember this: You will always get what you focus on. It really is as simple as that. If you focus on why you have a problem, now, that might be interesting knowledge to have, alas it will do precious little to solve your issues. On the other hand, when you work on figuring out how you do unhappiness and begin to see the often absurd pattern you are running, you will stop running them automatically over time.

So my advice to you is this: Learn techniques to increase your cognitive awareness. Focus on the how rather than the why of your actions. You will be amazed what you uncover. And your ability for true happiness will grow accordingly and your life will become more successful too.

Resources: Mercedes Oestermann van Essen is a human development coach, energy therapist and author. She has created the Happy Venn Diagram for environment, body and mind, a unique approach for happiness and success. Get your free report, 5 Little Known Keys To Happiness

The word meditation is derived from Sanskrit word Medha which means wisdom. People have diverse impressions about what meditation is. To some it refers to an activity monks do, sitting in far off lands, high up in the mountains. Yet there is a simple answer to the question what is meditation.

Meditation a refined approach to life. It is a way of leading life. Meditation is a practice that can help people cope with both medical problems as emotional and other problems like stress, fear and anxiety.

Other important points to note about meditation are:

1) There is evidence to show that meditation has been practiced by mankind for ages. And it goes beyond the barriers of religion. For example, in Hinduism, meditation has been in existence for the past 5000 years. From this ancient origin, it has come a long way and its principals are practiced globally by millions of people.

2) In Buddhism, it has always been a central concept for spiritual development.Gautam Buddha the founder of Buddhism obtained enlightenment through meditaion.

3) In Christianity, mediation is at times associated with prayer and the study of scriptures. It is deep rooted in the Bible, asking followers to practice meditation principles.

4) In Islam, a follower is expected to pray five times a day. These prayers are a way to concentrate and meditate on Allah the almighty.

Thus, there are many types of meditation activities and hence many benefits from the meditation. Meditation has positive effects on body and mind. Plus there are physical benefits including lower blood pressure and better functionality of the lungs.

Meditation also increases consciousness needed to live a meaningful and a satisfying life. It helps people attain better concentration.

And documentation of these effects are now available, with more than 1000 studies conducted by 200 universities, the prominent among them being the University of Chicago, Harvard Medical School and Stanford University.

Back to Basics with Meditation

To feel over worked and stressed is an obvious out come of today’s modern life style. This is often due to unhappiness, impatience and frustration - all having a slow and negative impact on ones health and well being in general.

One may also feel that it’s difficult to find the time to learn and practice meditation. But in reality meditation, the practice leaves people with more time to devote on the real positive issues in life, by clearing the mind from unwanted negative thoughts.

A very simple breathing meditation can be very helpful for beginners. This takes about fifteen minutes and has magical effects on the body and soul, bringing about a positive change in a personality.

In fact, breathing meditation forms the foundation of a higher stage of meditation which is called as transforming meditation. A place ideal for meditation has to be calm and quite.

The person meditating can be seated in the traditional cross legged manner or in any other fashion which is comfortable. Use of a chair is also fine. It is important to be seated with the back straight, so that one is always alert and does not feel sleepy.

A slow deep breathing is done. The idea is to concentrate just on breathing, and not to allow any distractions that would make the mind and thoughts wander.

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