Category: Personal Development

The Power Of Taking Responsibility

Posted by Dagger234 in Advice

     

“It’s not my fault.”

That’s what Ellen, a client of mine, told me. She believed it, too. Her mother and boyfriend caused all her problems. If only they would behave differently, her life would be perfect.

As a counselor, I hear this all the time. “If only my husband/wife/mother/father/boss/employees would do things differently.”

Sadly, even after several sessions, I couldn’t get Ellen to see how she caused all her problems. It was as if there was a vast conspiracy against her, and nobody understood.

Ellen’s situation, while severe, is not unique. Many of us, rather than facing up to our responsibilities, choose to blame almost anything for our failures.

You’re too old. You’re black. You’re white. You were abused as a kid. Your parents were poor role models. You were raised in poverty. You have some physical handicap.

According to Barbara Tuchman, “The number one need we have in our society today are people who accept responsibility.”

Let me just ask you a question: Do you believe that you could take action in the next 2 weeks that would make your life significantly worse?

Could you, then, take certain actions in the next 2 weeks that would make your life better?

If you answered “Yes” to these questions, then you’re admitting that you’re responsible for your own life. Yesterday ended last night. You can’t change it. All you can do is deal with it.

You have admitted that, no matter how good or bad your current situation is, there is a specific action you can take to make it better or worse.

Regardless of how many people argue to the contrary, everything is a choice.

Everything.

If I choose to eat too much, then I have chosen to weigh too much. And, if I choose to dwell on depressing thoughts, I have chosen to be depressed.

The outside events that happen to us only have as much power as we choose to give them. It’s never the events themselves that are important. Rather, it’s how we choose to perceive them.

Shakespeare said that “Nothing is either good nor bad, but thinking it makes it so.”

I read about a study that was done on 300 world class leaders. These were people like Gandhi, FDR, and Mother Theresa. A full 75% of those were raised in poverty, were abused as children, or had a severe physical problem to deal with.

And deal with it they did.

Even during the Great Depression, some people flourished. Conversely, even during times when the economy is magnificent, some people go broke.

If you constantly blame others for your failures, you rob yourself. By believing you’ve done no wrong, you doom yourself to repeat the same mistakes. Only by accepting full responsibility can you learn and move on.

The true responsibility for your life lies within you. A very wise man once told me that underneath every rock, you can find a demon.

He also told me that under that very same rock, you
can find an angel.

I encourage you to look for that angel in yourself. If you ignore the demons long enough, eventually they go away.

Gregory McGuire is a successful network marketer and hypnotherapist living in Smyrna, Tennessee.

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Improve Your Chances With Your USP

Posted by SuccessCoach in Advice

     

Today we shall look into what kind of unique qualities you have that can improve your chances in your work or in your business. We all have a number of unique qualities which we often are not aware of. This is often referred to as your USB or Unique Selling Proposition. To really appear as unique in what you do, makes it easier for a potential customer or manager to judge if they want what you offer them or not.

Let us take an example: We have John, 38 years old, who run his own business as a specialist in web design. As you might be aware of, there are plenty of companies offering web design which makes it difficult for the customer to choose who to hire. John contacts me since his business does not perform according to his intentions and plans.

John knows that he is really good at what he does, but he has mediocre sales results. We discuss the problem and I ask John what he does. After a while it is clear for me that John does not differ himself from the rest when he has meetings with potential clients. John does not market himself in a way that differentiates him from his competitors, which makes it impossible for the client to understand why they should choose John instead of any other web design company.

I ask John what makes him so good, what he is really good at within his niche. He says: I am quite good at everything but there is nothing special with me. However, I know that this is not true since I have seen Johns web design work and it is really good.

After a lot of discussion and digging into Johns work, we find three things that differentiate John from the rest. These unique things, also called the Unique Selling Proposition (USP), are;

1. John is reliable above the usual. He delivers what he promises and he makes sure the customer is happy with the result.
2. John offers web solutions that the customer himself can administrate, which makes his products very flexible.
3. John has a competence level within his niche that is second to none. All this is offered to a very competitive price.

When John presents his services with these unique qualities it is much easier for the customer to compare Johns offer with the competitors offers, and choose John.
This is a rather simple way to increase your turn around when you know what you are good at, i.e. to market and present your Unique Selling Proposition (USP).

So, my question to you my friend is;
- What kind of unique qualites do you have that differentiates you from the rest in your work or in you business?
- Make a list of at least three things that differentiates you from the rest.
- This is your Unique Selling Proposition/your USP.

Do your customers or your boss know what your USP is? If not, make sure you communicate this when you are marketing and selling your product or service.

At the Olympic Games in Montreal Canada 1976, the difference between the winner of 100 meter and the guy who came last, was 1/10 of a second. The winner had certain unique qualities that differentiated him from the rest. He became famous and his name was printed in the history books for ever, while the other names were forgotten only a couple of weeks after the competition. It is on people with these kinds of values the companies choose to sponsor with millions of dollars. The same apply for customers; they bet their money on the people or companies that stands out from the rest and offers unique values.

Good luck with these exercises and do not forget that you are unique. Use your Unique Selling Proposition (your USP) and improve your chances.

Hans Thorn has over 20 years of experience in personal development. He has helped hundreds of clients with success in areas like economy, health and relationships. Get his Personal
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Learning To Cope With And Get Rid Of Stress And Panic

Posted by Kevin03 in Advice

     

Stress and panic seem to come with everyday life for many of us and learning to control and cope with this can mean less time in the doctor’s office being sick. Stress is not something to turn your nose up at because if it is not treated it can lead to serious illnesses and possibly diseases. What happens is when we let our stress build and build and not control it our bodies become more prone to illnesses because prolonged stress leads to a chemical imbalance in the body. Therefore, if left unchecked stress can lead to many more problems than most people have realized.

Now is the time to learn to cope and manage stress before it is too late to stop some sort of illness affecting you for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, stress is a part of everyday life and it can come from many different places. Stress is caused mostly by worrying about something or feeling nervous about something. If you learn to stop worrying and being nervous so much you can stop stress before it gets too bad. It’s human nature to make a big deal out of the little things because in our minds those little things are not just little things to us.

Sometimes things just seem so much worse than they really are and it can be very difficult to cope when things get to be what we would consider “really bad”. Changes are a part of everyday life, which can be a big reason why stress is such a big part of our lives. The thing you need to learn if you have a problem with stress is to cope with the changes in everyday life and not stress over them so much. You need to figure out what is making us worry so much, reduce your bills if your are stressing of your financial situation or change whatever needs to be changed.

You need to consider changing any unhealthy habits you may have that could also be causing you stress. Without making a few good changes in your life you may continue to stress out and panic, which will eventually cause you to be sick when you did not need to be. Once you make the necessary changes to your life to reduce your stress you may notice how much better your life quality is. There are a few questions you can ask yourself to see if you have made positive changes in your life to calm the stress.

1. How is you working environment? Has is become better since you made the changes?
2. How have you been sleeping, have you been getting more sleep since you made the positive changes?
3. Have your eating habits changed? Are you eating more or less that you used to and is this a direct result of the changes you made?
4. How do you dress, do you dress to meet the latest trends or do you dress to suit yourself and your needs?
5. How is your current financial situation? Did it get worse or did it get better after changing your life for the better?
6. Are you having any kind of problems with the law?
7. Do you have a good family life, is your family supportive of you?
8. Do you have friends that you socialize with on a regular basis?

After you have answered all of the questions you should consider what the changes were that you made in your life. If everything in your life seems to be improving, that means that you have probably made all the changes necessary to lead a healthier life. However, there are times when we do not make the right changes to our lives and they are not improving. This is when we need to repeat the cycle and figure out what is make our lives so stressful and make more changes if need be.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development.

Remember To Remind Me To Remember

Posted by Sparta in Time Management

     

Life is undeniably chaotic. It doesn’t seem to matter how many gadgets we get, what new devices there are on the market to save time, we are always short of the stuff. Time and tide certainly wait for no man and the more we have, the more we try to cram in. Scientists are constantly working to find the elixir of life so that me can continue on this mortal coil even longer, cramming our lives with more and more.

There’s nothing we cannot do now apart from stop and enjoy time. It has got to a point where people even pre-arrange their holidays in order to cram in as much as possible, filling their days with activities in order to feel like they have had their monies worth and done as much as possible.

All these new inventions that we get to make our time more ‘our own’ just don’t seem to help. We have machines to cook, clean clothes, dry clothes, wash dishes in fact, pretty much everything yet there is still not enough hours in a day. On top of this, we are trying to do so much that we constantly need to buy gadgets that serve as reminder services to tell us of other things we have to cram in.

Reminder services come in the shape of notes and alarms on mobile phones, again with emails - they come with their own calendar that will alert you and provide a reminder service so that you don’t forget important dates. People are carrying more and more gadgets such as electronic diaries to provide a tailored reminder service for that all important meeting, that all important date or simply reminding us where we live!

Are we any better off for all this gadgetry? Well, in one sense we are but we need to keep it in perspective. It’s great to have a washing machine, I mean, can you imagine trying to fit in carting your load down to the nearest river and scrubbing it clean amid your busy schedule? Working mothers would be non-existent!

Computers and mobile phones have been an absolute god send when it comes to instant communication. The exchange of information that used to take weeks now takes minutes, even if it’s coming from the other side of the world.

However, when we are needing electronic reminder services to tell us of events going on in our children’s worlds that we promised to attend then something is seriously wrong. If we need a reminder service to tell us we actually have children, then we need to re-evaluate our lives, and quickly!

It’s not just us either. Living life in the fast lane has become such an everyday occurrence that our children also need these reminders. They have their own gadgets to remind them of school commitments, after school activities, dates with friends and all sorts of deadlines that they are already expected to commit to at even a young age. This is the way of the world these days but is it right?

What happened to good old fashioned pen and paper, notes stuck to the fridge as reminders or one paper calendar on the wall? Our lives have become that complicated that we will be needing reminders to breathe next. It would seem we are all trying too hard to do too much in too short a space of time and it all comes at the expense of the things that really matter.

Social expert Catherine Harvey looks at the way even children need reminder services in order to keep up with everyday commitments.

Motivation Is The Key To Success

Posted by Kevin03 in Advice

     

Motivation is the key to success in each of our lives. While success is something that is relatively personal, and means something different to everyone, the ultimate goal of success is to achieve a goal, or a set of goals. Let’s say that you asked ten different people what they feel an appropriate definition for success is, you may be surprised to find that each of these individuals have a different perception of success. While it is true that we all have our own perception of this term, there is one thing that remains consistent and unchanged, and that is that motivations is the key to success.

There are a number of things that get us excited. Let’s say that you got that new job that you have had your eye on, or you just discovered that it is quite possible to get started in a home based business that can be financially lucrative. Chances are, you are total psyched about your new found opportunity, right? This excitement that you experience during times in which you have been given an opportunity for success is a type of motivation. It has been found, in addition to excitement being a type of motivation, that motivation is also a type of excitement. In order to succeed in life, it is equally important to be excited about the dreams and aspirations that you have, and in turn, this will result in the motivation that is required to be successful.

Motivation comes with its share of complications. The most common complication that is experienced when it comes to motivation is staying motivated. While it may be easy to remain motivated for a short amount of time, it takes a great deal of discipline to stay motivated over the course of a long period of time. If you want to achieve success in your life, you must have a number of creative approaches that will assist in maintaining the proper amount of motivation to do so. It is absolutely necessary to ensure that you dedicate time each and every single day to the motivation that you need.

One of the first ways that you can achieve a heightened state of motivation is to read book that are available on the subject. There are a number of authors that are exceptional when it comes to sharing with their readers the secrets of success and motivation. These authors include Stephen Convey, John C. Maxwell, Dennis Waitley, and even Joyce Meyer. Just dedicating approximately fifteen to thirty minutes a day to the task of reading these types of books can be extremely helpful in motivating you while you work to achieve the success that you desire.

While this is just one example of a way that you can maintain a high level of motivation, it is a very positive and productive manner to stay on top of the excitement and motivation that you need to experience in order to achieve the goals that you have set for yourself. By achieving these goals, you will easily become the master of your destiny. You will truly achieve the success that you anticipate. In addition to this, you will learn effective strategies for being the best person that you can be! Get motivated! This is the key to your success.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of Be Successful News, a site that provides information and articles on how to succeed in your own home or small business.

The Importance Of Character

Posted by Kevin03 in Advice

     

If you look around you and the world that you are part of, you will quickly discover that many individuals engage in activities and display behaviors that are quite questionable. Many of these individuals display these behaviors and engage in activities that are considered to be questionable in order to accumulate riches and succeed in life. While it is true that many of these individuals achieve the success that they are after, they lack the integrity and honor of having character. If you are looking to achieve success in your life, and you want to do it in a morally upright manner, you must start by evaluating your character. Here, you will learn the importance of character.

If you attempt to succeed in a morally unjust manner, you may acquire a generous amount of wealth, but you are likely to remain unhappy, and experience an inner feeling of emptiness. This is because of the fact that you did what you did with a lack of character and regard for the character of others. When you display a morally upright character, you also display integrity. That is basically what character is - having a high sense of integrity. Integrity, ultimately, means “quality” when it relates to the character of an individual. Integrity goes so much deeper than just a standard “quality” in character.

Individuals who study philosophy have come to the conclusion that there are essential fundamentals when it comes to this term as it relates to human life. First, integrity is the standard that a person has towards themselves that is highly ethical, professional, and “formal”. The second fundamental is when an individual displays behaviors, and takes actions that are considered to be morally upright when faced with decisions, jobs, and social interactions in life. Integrity can be considered a moral, and it can also be considered a virtue when it comes to character.

There is one particular rule that has been passed down from one generation to another all throughout history that truly defines what is expected when it comes to proper character. That is the ever-popular “Golden Rule”. This rule, which originated in The Holy Bible in Luke 6:31 states: “Do to others as you would have them do to you”. While there are a number of translations and expression of this particular rule, the meaning is simple. If we keep this rule in mind as we progress through life, not only will we exhibit a morally upright character, but we are quite likely to experience the success that we have set out to achieve.

There are certain characteristics that make a person successful. First the individual that is destined for success will have a strong belief in themselves, as well as that which they want to accomplish. This type of individual will also have a determination to do what it takes, and to do it in a virtuous manner. Work is not an issue for these individuals, and neither is failure. Failure is nothing more than a way of letting that person know that they must attempt to do whatever it is that they are trying to do in a more creative way. Failures are true learning experiences that the individual with character and integrity actually look forward to, and the lessons experienced. If you can have this character, you will go far in life.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development.

 

 

 

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